As a child I always wanted a large family and spoke of it often. Every time I played house I had at least 12 children. My mom thought I would out grow these “silly notions”.

While I was still in the beginnings of motherhood with three children, I got my patriarchal blessing and my husband received his at the same time. The point that stood out the most to me was one of the first things Heavenly Father told me: “that He was pleased with my decision to have a family”. The other point that helped me realized how important my role in raising my large family was something that was said in my husband’s blessing. He was told that “the influence of our family would bring many people to the gospel.” Those are powerful reminders to me to continue on and to treasure having a family.

We have seven wonderful children now, who knows how many we will be blessed with. My husband and I completely rely on Heavenly Father in regards to this and are blessed tremendously each time we welcome another baby into our home.

Thanks, Rachel, for the wonderful reminder! Sometimes reading something like this is a nice reminder to carry on!

http://lds.org/conference/talk/display/0,5232,23-1-775-27,00.html

This talk is all that I’m trying to say with this blog! I want to state that I absolutely support and admire Sister Beck for her wonderful remarks!!!

I really think we “modern women” have all been so brainwashed by public schools and the media regarding womanhood, motherhood, marriage, etc., that the truth can be jarring to hear.

I loved Sister Beck’s talk, too. I was so impressed by how courageously she stood up and spoke with such power about unpopular topics. Talk about a strong woman!

Thanks for the link, dakota! (It’s nice talking with ya!)

Have you heard of the recent Sunstone Symposium bruhaha over Sister Beck’s “Mothers Who Know” talk? Check out this article in the Deseret News.

http://deseretnews.com/article/1,5143,700249373,00.html

I heard about it listening to Bob Lonsberry’s radio show here in Utah. He was adamantly critical of the Sunstone group and supportive of Sister Beck. I went back and reread Sister Beck’s talk and loved every word of it. I didn’t feel any pressure to be perfect (though my daughter did), or any condemnation of non-mothers. I can, however, see how some might be easily offended by Sister Beck’s talk–if they fail to listen to/read it with the spirit.

The anger of some of these women surprises me–or maybe it shouldn’t. The wicked do take the truth to be hard.

Motivated by the negligence of modern parents on determining appropriate childrearing approaches, Anne Pierce examines the harsh consequences American society inflicts upon our children in “Ships Without a Shore”. Today’s standards create no solid foundation for substantial growth as the pressures of early-age education, improving talents, organized sports and creating impressive resumes takes away from the innocence and creativity children thrive upon. Pierce suggests that moral values have become optional as children turn to the media and their peers for guidance as a result of a household with two working parents, who are often too busy for adequate family time. The definition of a nuclear family has changed in the past two decades to include mothers who seek fulfillment in the workplace rather than their homes, single parent families as a result of teen and out-of-wedlock pregnancies, and the increasing divorce rate. These social issues directly affect children as mothers are contributing to their family’s financial wellbeing, rather than satisfying parent-child relationships. According to Pierce, this model for the self-fulfilled mother is supported by the media’s portrayal of powerful women in the corporate world and popular opinion that mothers should be free from guilt of leaving their duties at home. The data presented by the media on the effects of two working parents is a seemingly reasonable situation for families, yet the figures are often misleading: as Pierce’s research points out, many of the so-called ‘working mothers’ hold part time jobs, have flexible hours, or work from home and are therefore a constant presence in her child’s life and providing at-home care rather than institutionalized. She argues that many daycares promote ‘early learning’, which often is not age appropriate, and sheds light that although several centers may be high quality, no child will receive the same love and trust that a parent can provide. Many psychological problems arise from the abandonment of infants and young children to daycare and early learning centers that create adolescent and adult disorders. Pierce gathers many scientific studies and includes them in her text, making the information available and understandable to the reader. She also provides comprehensive examples of worldly political and psychological trends that have influenced popular thought, such as the Soviet Revolution, which placed focus on the community rather than families, and the justification of any and all choices in our current cultural relativism. Furthermore, the text cites specific familial examples of various interviews conducted by Pierce, and even personal accounts from her experience as a ‘working’ mother. “Ships Without a Shore” gives a voice to the mothers who fight the pressure to return to the workforce; those who are ignored because popular opinion is much easier to accept than the truth that is hard to hear. Anne Pierce reminds parents that children can learn outside institutions and structured activities; children must grow in their imaginations and especially, in love. This book forces us to ask, ‘What are the optimal conditions for rearing a child?’ rather than simply finding a convenient solution for parents.

LOL! Sorry to depress! So how’d the mopping go? (And if you think my house is spotless, I sure have YOU fooled! *hee*)